ASPERGERS in adults: 9 way for YOU to spot the symptoms

ASPERGERS in adults: 9 way for YOU to spot the symptoms


so Asperger’s in adults in this video
we’re going to covering nine ways that you can spot Asperger’s and somebody quickly
coming up hey I’m Dan I have Asperger syndrome
ADHD OCD and dyslexia I make weekly videos on the subject so make sure to
hit that subscribe button and join the most accepting family on YouTube and
learn more in this video I’ll be covering some symptoms that have been
proven to help identify Asperger’s in somebody hey everyone welcome back to
the Aspie World where we understand autism from an autistic person’s point
of view and so before we get into the video I just want to ask you guys a
quick question and I would love to know what your background is if you’re a
parent or partner or loved one of somebody who’s on the spectrum or you’re
a healthcare professional or industry professional in the field let me know in
the comments below just cuz I’d love to start that
conversation with you okay so let’s get started number one people will
absolutely syndrome you’ll find social situations very confusing and they won’t
really understand a lot of the social cues where typically people will
understand body language a lot more with social cues like whose turn is to talk
next when to finish talking how long to talk for what the boundaries and the
conversation and things like that but people last bigger syndrome just
sometimes don’t have that ability and this is one way to identify it and it’s
super common within people with Asperger syndrome I myself suffer from this issue
as well so social situations can be very confusing and because of that I kind of
tend to ignore and isolate myself from social situations I don’t want to get
involved and I avoid them like the plague
this is boil down to the fact that what is immune occation part of the brain and
this is why it’s a neurological disorder and this is how you can really tell it’s
like the first steps is really telling if somebody has a neurological issue
where there may be something on the autism spectrum there so this is a
really good one to look out for so number two people Asperger syndrome will
find it quite difficult to make small talk now small talk is the conversation
that people have in social situations that just kind of comes naturally to
them and they have this natural ability to just talk
to somebody who they may have met in a bus stop or in a shopping center or
whatever but people lost burger syndrome have a huge issue in engaging in this
talk I mean how do you start a conversation quite difficult I find a
quite difficult start conversation with a stranger or somebody I don’t really
know or somebody who I’ve just encountered for a few seconds I mean I’m
not sure why there needs to be a conversation in the first place but this
is something that I found that I do differently to a lot of other people and
that I go is kind of like notice that this is a trait so when you’re dealing
with somebody who you think may be on the autism spectrum look out for this
fact that they more often than not will have difficulty to Smalltalk ok so
number 3 the person with Asperger’s syndrome may find it difficult to have
some imagination and or just imagine imaginative story writing or when
someone telling the story they can’t really imagine it I have this massive
issue right so this is an example for me my girlfriend she’ll come in and she’ll
say like I did this and work today and this person is over here and they stood
there and they have this thing here and it was this position there and I’m just
like I have no idea what I can’t imagine how the layout of her office looks or
whatever I can’t understand how you know the layout of of the the school or
whatever it’s really difficult I have to really see it with my own eyes
understand it and I find this really difficult and it actually kind of also
affects my directions as well and I’m like when we’re driving somewhere trying
to find some of my directions are really cool because I can’t imagine what’s next
and stuff so this is something to look out for because it’s a huge huge one but
um you know definitely affects people on the autism spectrum with Asperger’s
syndrome number for people with Asperger’s syndrome are normally pretty
good with picking up details and facts about something that they may be really
into so it’s fine details quite often common so for instance when I want to
first met a guy who I’m not friends with called Tom he I noticed that he changed
his trousers during the day we were in we were in a college course together and
happy through the day he changed his trousers or his hoodie and I’d always
noticed like he changed his clothes and I’d always say to him like hey you know
you’re changing your clothes all like when somebody does something quite minor
like they maybe change the hair halfway through the day I’ll notice out the
change is that and so those small small details are
really interesting because a lot of people just ignore them and they don’t
really realize them at people with Asperger syndrome really find those fine
details and I’m good with facts like I love learning about facts and I always
retain information about facts I don’t know why but I find this fascinating but
people on the autism spectrum definitely retain these facts especially
that Asperger’s and dominates their crucial one to look out for now number
five is social imagination or trying to understand what the other person is
thinking so people with Asperger’s syndrome have an issue with figuring out
how the other person feels or how another person you know what they may be
thinking so for instance I was talking to somebody about a topic and that topic
upset them I wouldn’t really notice that it upset them I’d have to wait for them
to tell me Dallas’s upset me you shouldn’t really
talk about this topic and this happens all the time especially their feelings
as well I don’t understand other people’s feelings I don’t know if
they’re happy or sad they have to really kind of tell me I mean very extreme
levels on Oh someone’s happy or sad but generally it’s difficult to judge that
I’ll gauge that so this is something to look out for when you’re trying to spot
if Asperger’s is the condition that I certain person has if you guys are
interested I did a video on unusual Asperger’s symptoms which are more
unusual types and I’ll leave that in a card above here so you can check that
out after this video if you’re interested in seeing some unusual traits
of Asperger’s syndrome okay so number six people Asperger’s
syndrome can usually focus on certain things for long periods of times now a
lot of people call this zoning out but I like the color zoning in so a lot of
people say other zoning out of kind of reality but it’s more like a zoning in
and it’s kind of like what I like for instance sometimes I’ll be somewhere and
I’ll see something on the floor maybe I’ll be a bit of electronic equipment
and then I’ll just look at it and and I just zone it right into it and I’ll
start thinking about the complexities of it how it got there what was made of
what its purpose was what I could really use it for how it could take it apart
use it for something else what it looks like what it kind of resembles and all
this kind of stuff you know it may take moments and moments out of the day for
me in my mind but it’ll be like minutes and minutes for everybody else this is
something to remember if you see somebody zoning into something and
zoning out of what you’d call a typical environment then this could be another
causing factor be it absolutely syndrome so number seven
being rude and intentionally now I have this a lot a lot of people find me
arrogant or rude but it’s not like my intentions I’ve never intended to do
that so people with Asperger syndrome never intend to be rude or arrogant it
just may come across like that because again it’s all down to that social
communication and the social imagination and understanding what is going on in
that conversation and where your boundaries are so I may say something
which is an obvious fact but something to be aware of is being tactful in your
approach to conversations so one thing I’m not is I’m not very tactful in
conversations I may say the wrong thing at the wrong time and it’s really
difficult to gauge that so somebody with Asperger’s syndrome will definitely have
those issues trying to really pinpoint the the right things to say at the right
times okay number eight is strong narrow interests now people with Asperger’s
syndrome everybody ain’t no on the spectrum on loads of people now thanks
to YouTube we all have the narrow specific interests like my specific
interest is like UFO conspiracy theories and I know like as much as I can get my
hands on up by books on it and then just like over indulge in it and I just I
just love learning about it and it’s like I just love focusing on it it’s
almost like my relaxation in the way but people with Asperger syndrome may have a
specific topic that they’re really really into and it could be anything it
could just be you know it could be a movie star
it could be learning about movies it could be anime it could be Pokemon it
could be absolutely anything but if you notice that they have an obsessive
unusual or typical but obsessive focus on an interest I know a lot about it
like a hyper hyper focus then this could be a causing factory again toutes
Asperger’s syndrome number nine is routine so people with
Asperger syndrome like to do things in a certain way that inflexible they’re very
repetitive so like I like to get up the same way every single day I like to do
the same thing I like to wear the same clothes I like to have my morning
routine exactly the same I like to have my day routine the same or when we go
anywhere I like to plan out what we’re doing and have that routine in place
because those things make me feel calm and make me feel more secure and safe
and without them it would cause a meltdown or an outburst
or and it would just seriously upset me and so people on the autism spectrum
especially Asperger syndrome love routine and certain rigid inflexible
patterns it’s just comfortable to live your life like that I find it chaos
outside of these patterns my brain can’t cope with it my mind can’t cope with it
it’s it’s difficult to explain but it’s something that is there and it’s a it’s
a huge huge factor in Asperger’s syndrome
okay so I know I said I was only gonna give me nine but I’m just gonna give you
an extra bonus one this is number ten now number ten I hear this a lot from
people who I know people with Asperger syndrome may find it really difficult to
make new friends I’ll just make friends in general I remember in primary school
this was really difficult for me to make friends I didn’t really have many
friends in primary school and in a secondary school it was even more
difficult to make friends but I found that by playing music because I’m a
multi musician as well and I taught myself to play instruments by playing
music I found other people who played music and I then made friends of those
people making my friends they’re my only friends really that I’ve had to my
entire life so it’s difficult to make friends because you have to find some
way relating to them and often the world can be very isolating so if you see
somebody who’s got a huge difficulty in making friends they skip you down to the
fact that they have Asperger syndrome if you’d like to learn more about autism
and Asperger’s make sure you hit that subscribe button over here and to see my
next video which is a playlist on what is autism click up here to watch that
I’ll see you next time guys peace

100 thoughts on “ASPERGERS in adults: 9 way for YOU to spot the symptoms

  1. I think I might be on the spectrum, every time I do those "Do you have autism?" tests, I always score just above the threshold

  2. I have a doubt about those obsessive interests though, (I’m 15 and most likely I do have Asperger’s, I’m currently trying to find a way to get my mom to bring me to a psychologist so I can get diagnosed, she’s basically a “boomer” so it’ll be hard to make her understand my situation) like, when you have one of those obsessive interests, do you seek for as many information as you can about it until you’re satisfied and then you take a break/don’t focus on it so much or do you usually keep constantly searching about it throughout your life?

  3. Just a question, i have a disability but not aspergers. I have a learning delay and had it all my life too. But do you get along with other people who has a disability. Because my boyfriend’s friend i dont know if he does really have a disability like aspergers. Because you said he doesnt do those things. Because he can make friends. My daughter has autism. So please help me

  4. I definitely avoid small conversations. Im a Spanish speaker who talks with heavy accent and people look at me like "what the hell is he saying"😀😀😀😀

  5. Thank you for this video. My son is 12 years old. With Asperger's, ADHD and type 1 diabetes. This helps me understand. I see these things in him. What helps you cope with social issues? Also what kinds of things helped you when you were younger in that 12year age? Thank you in advance if you answer my questions.

  6. I've always struggled in social situations & basically hitting each of the indicators yoube mentioned. Some of them I control but it's a challenge. Wondering if I should get a formal verification of this for me? Strangely I feel being told, yes your right your ASPIE will help me be ok.

  7. I was diagnosed with asperger as a kid. I'm almost 50 now never been comfortable in social situations any kind of gatherings etc. I live alone and prefer it. I have a lot of symptoms this guy is talking about

  8. Some people haven't been 'socialised' well and are poor at it. The danger of content like this is that they confuse people who need to work on their social skills and convince them that they are naturally inadequate (I don't care if you dislike the word – truth hurts) and that they have a 'condition' that they need to 'manage'. This chap clearly isn't on the spectrum and has fallen prey to ready made excuses that alleviates him from learning and making the effort. Sad but undeniably true

  9. Yup sounds all familiar I dated guy that was everything you said and I have bpd and somehow I fell I love with him after dating for a far his response was I don’t and never will I was heartbroken… what a mess

  10. I am glad i can across your video, i also have swvere adhd and aspergers along with ASPD and i agree theres nothing worse on my menu than small talk my wife tried it time and time again and no!
    Although i dont have a problems figuring out how another person feels in fact im very good at that, what i dont care about is how they feel and thats where psycopathy comes in.
    I dont get peoples feelings at all it irritates me when i see crying.

  11. People with Aspergers syndrome can adapt and overcome the not understanding sarcasm, the confusion of body language, the small talk instigation, and general dependence on others surrounding them. Aspergers syndrome are able to evolve and learn new things; they most definitely aren't helpless nor are they hopeless. The imagination thing is not an issue either.

  12. Please… PLEASE discontinue stereotypes and social stigmas! One case and instance of something occuring is not EVERY case and instance of something occuring.

  13. Don't have aspergers, just bad social anxiety, but I also hate small talk. Never been good at it. In fact, just the last year or so I've been working (and getting better) at it.

  14. I always thought that small talk was just a huge pet peev of mine i didnt associate it with anything but my older cousin has been diagnosed with aspergers

  15. I have a wonderful husband that I love "to the Oort Cloud and Back" We have been married for 43 years and we just now – together – figured out that he is an Aspie. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. It was often so challenging for both of us trying to make things work and not having a clue. Our love endured….but so wish we would have figured it out sooner 🙂

  16. I feel like im 90% sure I have aspergers kinda lost to how to even find if I have aspergers syndrome do I talk to doctor

  17. Many, but not all Aspergers folks do not make eye contact while talking to someone. Or they might make a limited amount of eye contact.

  18. I'm a behavioral science major and my sister who is 14 was just diagnosed this week with asperger's syndrome and I really appreciated your insight because it helps significantly in my career and ability to understand my sisters actions and thoughts. Thank you for using your platform to educate people on these topics!

  19. I'm in Arkansas are there any doctors around here,, everything you said describes me,, the people I'm with think I'm retarded,,i can't talk to them,,i piss them off,,i have been called retarded by her,, what can I do for help with this matter,,i don't like to talk to people,,i text everyone,

  20. Recently, I had someone ask me if I was autistic. Never been diagnosed, to my knowledge at least, but I’ve been obsessing in my mind about possibly being so. Before watching this video, certain idiosyncrasies of mine do make sense to being high functioning autistic. A lot of the points I thought, relate to EVERY point you made in this video. Thank you so much for simplifying this and I’m now subscribed to your channel cause of this and I need to talk to my counselor about possibly being autistic. I’m 30 years old btw. And I also have dyslexia like you do bro! And also some mental health issues mainly Cyclothymia. Again, thank you man!!!

  21. I was diagnosed with aspergers at age 32. I was so relieved because I used to think that I was weird because I'm a bit different. I'm proud to have aspergers.

  22. My 4 year old just got diagnosed. But now, his school thinks he may have been misdiagnosed! Either ways, I'm reading up and learning all I can! My brother does have Asperger's BUT he's actually turned into a father figure for my kid!
    They don't call it a spectrum for nothing.
    Most ppl wouldn't really know off the bat my brother has it or if they do suspect something, they just think he's socially awkward.

  23. So this guy at my old job was super cute. Everyone in the office thought he was just weird and anti social. He’d never make small talk, wouldn’t really talk to anyone and was always by himself. I suspected he might have Aspergers or something similar. Anyways, I had a crush on him but I swear every time I’d make an attempt to talk to him he’d just ignore me and pretend I wasn’t there. Others in the office tried being friends with him but he didn’t seem interested in making friends. One day he got up in the middle of work, yelled he was quitting and never returned. I felt bad for him because he probably felt no one understood him but the truth is, someone cared for him a lot and he never gave anyone a chance to get close to him.

  24. I saw all the yellow commercial markers (7!) in the video when it started and subsequently couldn’t pay attention due to anxiety of anticipation of all the interruptions 😟
    That may be fine for neurotypicals but unfortunately not for me..

  25. My youngest son was diagnosed with AS and I have long suspected my middle son has it too. They are very different from each other tho.

  26. I have a very weird personality.
    So I was confirmed to have Aspergers, and yet I am super extroverted, so it is not really affect my enthusiasm to talk to people, just how well I do it.
    You have no idea how many times people ask me why I repeat things under my breath. I physically cannot help it, it is just a muscle memory thing I do. There are also situations where I will be talking perfectly fine and then get caught on a single phrase and totally screw up my whole sentence

  27. I've recently realised that I'm probably aspergers and getting a referral to get the assessment. What you said about zoning in really resonated with me. I saw a Tesla that looked like it had been in an accident and I'm still thinking about how, why, what happened and I saw it a week ago 🤣 Love the video

  28. Wow this was actually very informative
    I’m a student who has recently self diagnosed and also have trouble with these thing like if some one laughs awkwardly I think they are enjoying the situation or I stare of into space for long periods of time getting lost down a rabbit hole of thought or obsess over one topic for months on end
    So thanks for this

  29. YouTube will never replace Psychiatry. This is unregulated, unlicensed information. Take all of it with a giant grain of salt.

  30. I'm a parent my son is diagnosed but he only has a few symptoms of he atleast is really good at pretending he dont

  31. I am the parent of a 23-year-old aspire female. I subscribe to your channel because I think you are doing great work. Thanks… Looking forward to more

  32. Does unintentional rudeness happen when saying something that only the Aspie person didn’t think would be rude? For example, when telling a joke to a friend, and what sounds fine in your mind may be rude, or worse inappropriate.

  33. My oldest sister has it and everyone on her side of the family and my second oldest sister noticed I have the same syptoms

  34. I find it fascinating. I wasn't diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome and being a polymath until late in life (around 10 yrs ago. Now 70) by my daughter in law who works professionally with the severely autistic and by my doctor. I began to study the syndrome and found myself much relieved to give myself into it. It explained many things about life that I'd never understood before. I had seen the movie 'Temple Grandin' and thought, wait a minute, that's how I think. That and I retain the capacity for eidetic visualization. My prime interests are science and physics yet can't speak a word of math. One of my greatest irritations is that I've been working for years on a system that, for the life of me I can't figure out why it wouldn't work (and I try), that would beat Newtons' third theorem of thermodynamics using but one moving part in a hydro/mechanical apparatus. It's as if everyone hell bent that Newton was a 'god'. Not to mention Einstein. Granted, they were both very cleaver men for their time but they sure as hell didn't know all there is to know about the universe nor physical science. Any more than we of today know all there is to know in the fields. And even with what we do know, we tend to stick applications that are the easiest with the highest grade of return. They seem so ingrained in their dogma that it acts as if it were an inescapable prison.To me, that's just pure laziness. I prefer Tesla and Schauburger myself. It would seem to me that being how as most major advents in the world were developed by Aspis, that most NT's (neoru-typical) would bear them a bit more credence averse the scorn.

  35. My obsessions are Bigfoot and spelling. I've watched every show about Bigfoot at least 20 times. Also misspelled words aggravate the shit out of me. They will find Bigfoot one day! 😂😂

  36. I fall on the spectrum but my wife is the one who showed me to you and I'm glad she did. I was starting to feel clueless how I could manage myself and I think I'll learn a lot from you. Thank you for making it easier to find information on the subject, I'm starting to believe I suffer with nonverbal learning disorder and it wasn't always easy to understand things easily without it being an interest of mine.

  37. I don’t know what todo I have a lot of these things but never gone to the docs about it Cos I’m worried about what is going to come of it please get back to me about this

  38. I find it hard to accept that there is some sort of information available to me during the course of human interaction that indicates how long I should speak for, who's turn it is to speak etc.
    If this kind of thing is obvious to most people I guess I should seek a diagnosis

  39. I'm a partner, watching this video just to learn more. I have BPD so me and him are both unique, and both having learning. 🖤 Thanks for the video

  40. People have small talk?
    I usually end up imagining whatever the person is talking about as happening in a place that I've been (an old home for instance) that more or less matches up with the details they are giving.

  41. My husband is 37yrs old. We’ve been married 1.5 years. He’s never been tested nor did anyone ever tell him or ask him about having Aspergers. However he told me he has always felt he was missing things like people weren’t being completely honest with him. So my husband has 8 of those 9 symptoms do you think he has Aspergers?how important is it for him to get tested?

  42. I have a problem imagining simple, clichéd and boring stories.. but I can imagine complex, interesting topics really well. I.e topics that I'm passionate about. Anyone else?

  43. I've seen other autism and AS videos on symptoms etc. This went more in depth about the symptoms and gave examples. Always wondered what was going on with me. Been diagnosed and misdiagnosed eoth vatious mental illnesses since age 10. Oh you have depression. Wait no you don't, it's add. Oh wait you can keep focused, not add. And then they go back and forth back and forth and it's like WTF!!!!! I have a majority of these difficulties. The only one that doesn't apply to me is imagination. But I'm shit with direct directions. I get overwhelmed when people try explaining things to me. But I've always been begger at reading.

  44. "I'm not sure why there needs to be a conversation in the first place"
    Because we live in a society.
    Believe it or not, people actually have a RIGHT to speak to you in public, as well as a RIGHT to record you in public.
    Crazy, I know.

  45. Parent of an ASD 3.5yr boy (high functioning). I feel like I may has aspergers aswell. But it’s hard to get an adult diagnosis in my area

  46. It’s important to notice that there is actually a big difference between Aspergers in females and males. Being a female with Aspergers I didn’t even know I was unconsciously doing behaviors I was unaware of till I watched this talk (also I’m older now but was diagnosed as a child at age 11 but I’ve become aware of this behavior only now in my adult years)

    Girls actually are more likely to engage in social situations than boys. While boys withdraw from it girls are know to exhibit detailed and methodical mimicking behavior that is driven by attention to detail ((for instants I dissect behaviors to mimic them though I was unaware of why it was important it was driven more by a methodical approach than an instinctual one)of the reason I was doing it though I knew the outcome would be better fitting in to my peer groups) thought I didn’t have the understanding of why behaviors socially were important to others because they didn’t met anything to me I could see that they were

    A very interesting lecture on this behavior by a psychologist known for catching ASD in girls about this behavior can be found here:

    (Thought it might be of interest and you could address it in a future video)

    https://youtu.be/wfOHnt4PMFo

  47. I set impossibly high standards in other people when it comes to finding friends, after years of crushing disappointments at the hands of others which seem to fly in the face of my own hardwired set of positive spectrum enhancements, like being honest, loyal… I hate being late for example, but as the saying go's "other people are hell" … famous quote there… I forget who said that… but for me they are right… If I see a crowd I go the opposite direction… I seem to be counter to everything, not wanting to be different… but by design… so over the years I've cultivated a way of being which circumvents difficult social situations and just focused on being a creative type… which gives me the greatest of highs… just the process of creativity in either making music or programming for my example gives me such a sense of achievement and ultimately makes me happier… anyway talking of UFO's – would you know what the word "haunebu" means ? – because that was the password to Operation Paperclip, which was the real reason for the UFO myth starting in 1947 with the 'saucer' crash cover story simply to hide the fact it was a V2 rocket which was built not a 100 miles away at White Sands missile range in New Mexico by the same ex-Nazi scientists which the US had just defeated in the theatres of Europe… so rather than put the veterans and public's suspicions up they created the UFO myth overnight… this comment may not make it passed the censors… anyway thanks very much, cheers

  48. Hey I play bass and sing in a band too! I think I may be slightly autistic too. My youngest son has light autism (diagnosed), but he's very intelligent.

  49. I know that I am really interested in WW2 and specifically the German side of it. I am also learning German, so it hasn’t gone well for me especially in today’s society. It’s hard to describe to others, and they find my interest disturbing and it really ticks me off. So I now know that having a great interest in something isn’t just me, it’s actually common with people with Aspergers.

  50. Thanks for the video.
    People with Aspergers may exhibit the behaviors you describe, but many of them are also common to people without Aspergers, for example narrow interests, or unintentional rudeness (lack of socialization), or finding it hard to make friends. Some of life's challenges can be overcome by learning without being permanent. On the other hand I find as I get older that some things get harder as energy levels decline. Good nutrition and sound sleep can make a big difference too. 🙂
    I have a problem with the autism spectrum concept because I don't like labels. We are not very good at freeing ourselves from limitations that we place on ourselves once we allow ourselves to be defined by labels.

  51. I don't like being In social situations. I hate small talk.

    Story
    When i was a kid when I was told 2 go & play. Instantly my thought why do I what 2 play. What am I supposed to learn. Am I nuts. I luv anything to do with horses.

  52. Jesus christ….. You are one fucked up dude. Add, austism, ocd, aspergers, dyslexia, hiv, adhd, aids and schizophrenia you are one of the most fucked up people on the planet

  53. What really annoys me in this video is that small cupboard between cooker hood and fridge which has a door that looks like it opens towards the fridge, which means the handle would hit the fridge side and that's just unacceptable. Other than that I'm fine.

  54. Small talk: The art of yapping on about absolutely nothing. Especially in large group situations. It’s just like listening to meaningless jibber jabber you know, like listening to those little monkeys 🐒 that squeak and squawk on about any old s*** . Sorry if that’s disrespectful but…there it is and here we are.

  55. This was very well done. I'm an Aspie, and I struggle with about half of the symptoms you described…especially making friends and obsessive interests.

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