ASPERGERS Meltdowns: What YOU need to know about OVERLOAD

ASPERGERS Meltdowns: What YOU need to know about OVERLOAD


in this video I’ll be talking about
Asperger meltdowns so that by the end of the video you’ll know what it’s all
about coming right up hey what’s up I’m Dan
I have Asperger’s syndrome ADHD OCD and dyslexia I make weekly videos on autism
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before we get started on today’s video I just want to ask you a quick question do
you know anybody with an autism spectrum condition and if so are they related to
you via work or family members I’m just interested to know so let me know in the
comments below so we can start this conversation so what is Asperger’s
syndrome really to begin with Asperger syndrome is a lifelong neurological
condition which affects certain parts of the brain and impacts your ability for
communications and things like that so what I will do is I will leave a link in
the card above here of what actually autism and Asperger’s is so you can
check that video at the end of this video so let’s get started on a billion
meltdowns so an Asperger meltdown is where a person with Asperger syndrome
has an overload of stimulation so they they have an overload and then they
start lashing or it could be uncontrollable crying panic attack out
of breath they could be thrashing about that they’ve actually hit their head
their hair they could maybe stomp their feet or throw their hands about and
actually break some of their limbs I’ve actually done this I’ve broken my hand
twice here and my wrist and my hand on this one and it happens quite often and
I guess it’s more often than not that you know that there’s something kind of
really like an outburst of anger like you’ve reached your maximum capacity of
what you can take with and that’s really what a meltdown is so it kind of like
comes on comes on stronger and then boom it happens you have this meltdown which
is this outburst of the energy overload stimulation overload and you just kind
of just I don’t know you know you just everything just comes out so I can
energy every energy piece that you have in your body just blurts out in this
meltdown so how does it happen now and a meltdown could happen because of a
trigger so there could be a single trigger that will trigger somebody so it
could be that that triggers I’m talking about violent it could be that they have
been losing a lot of sleep they’re getting really really cranky because you
know having this condition also keeps you up at night you a lot of people find
difficult to sleep with absolutely syndrome so having this and it could
just push you to you’re at the end of your tether and then this is how a
meltdown could happen there’s other ones where there could be an environmental
factor an environmental trigger rather than a personal trigger these are all
very very in fact is of something that could actually happen and why does it
happen and an interesting one is why did these happen why do these triggers occur
now the trade has happened because people with absolutely syndrome like
routines to the like things to be the same so say you know someone was doing
the havoc of halfway through their daily routine and then it changed suddenly
this could cause a meltdown because the overload of the the consequence of
changing at the routine is just too much so you know if we were planning on going
up to this place to have dinner and we booked everything to go up to this place
for dinner so we thought all got that for dinner but we get there and it’s
closed unexpectedly then that would cause a huge huge panic a meltdown
that’d be very involved there’d be emotional triggers involved will be all
kinds of stuff involved and this would really cause and set the scene for a in
emotional meltdown on McKenna and Albus and Asperger’s meltdown so that’s how
that happens we’d like to learn more about the symptoms of Asperger’s and
autism I’ll leave a card in the cab here so you can go check that out or
leave in a link in the description below so you can check out after this video
again so a lot of people ask what do you do if you see someone having these
outbursts these autism Asperger meltdowns and the best thing to do is
try and calm the person down it’s difficult to do because the person has
gone through these kind of this motion of okay let’s put into perspective it’s
like you know say you say you’re gonna go to the store and pick up some bread
before going to either birthday party so you go to the that you go to get the
bread but then the stores closed and then you think oh so then you have to go
your whole routine is thrown out you have to like then find a bread somewhere
else so then you have to you’ll be late for the birthday party it’s not gonna go
exactly how you planned it’s not safe it’s not secure and then all these
triggers are like a domino effect imagine like hitting down loads of
dominoes that you just can’t get your head around and you thinking oh my
goodness house is ever gonna end so that’s what kind of mind state you’re in
if you are having an iceberg and meltdown and then there’s a controllable
crying there’s a panic attack from the panic that’s happening you get shot on
to breath and you chest hit and you’re stressed and all the stuff is happening
so my advice would be that if you see someone having one of these meltdowns is
that you have to comfort them and then it’s trying to find out what is going on
you see where the problem lies and if you can actually help that problem maybe
you’ll come up with a solution because Plan B’s actually do work and they help
reduce a lot of stress so they say hey you know there’s another bakery down the
street which I know so we can go there to get the bread so those kind of things
are our ways of like you know problem solving for the issue that’s a hunt and
another one is to get the person to breathe because breathing is really
important real deep breaths because get into deep breath will help them calm
down and then make sure that they try not to hit themselves or hit of war or
hit the floor or something because again this is something that I’ve come across
where I may be lashed now I’ll hit my hands here hit my hand there and then it
would just break my hands I’ll break my toes and it’s not good so you want to
try to avoid any of that and also hitting head ideas quite a lot on them
if and I’ve learned how to deal with it now so I don’t do it as much but now
there are ways of reducing meltdowns so I’m going to talk a little bit about
reducing marathon’s so if you you know taking care of somebody with Asperger’s
syndrome or somebody with Asperger’s into myself this is what me and my
girlfriend managed to do to help reduce some of my mouth pounds and that’s
basically pre-empting what’s going to happen so
you kind of think ahead a little bit so you think okay well
we’re gonna go to a park or we’re gonna go for a walk of a mountain or in a
field or something and we’re gonna know we’re gonna be there over lunch time so
rather than me freak out when it gets lunchtime
we’re worried now I haven’t had food and I don’t think staff to eat at certain
times and stuff because I get kind of worried about all these things my
partner would then say okay well we’ll take we’ll take food with us and we’ll
also take notes and foxes and we’ll also take a lot of water with us and we’ll
take everything every event reality that we can try and cover we’ll cover because
the more eventualities that you can cover for the best so if we say we’re
going to go into this restaurant today but if they’re closed we’re going to go
to another one or another one so you have a plan the a B and C this again is
covering all eventualities and this is very very powerful so you may be able to
really reduce some meltdowns that may actually happen because you’ve already
thought of hey if that doesn’t go to plan what’s the next plan and if you
also go through those Plan B’s C’s and DS maybe with the person who had thought
in the spectrum condition then they will understand that better they will
understand the fact that there are other plans and then you they’ll see a route
with those plans so that’s another way doing it another one is looking out for
triggers so sometimes you know that they may be sitting triggers so maybe certain
noises or certain smells can set off a meltdown so if someone is having
essentially overload to smells and sights so you know to avoid those areas
where the smells are present so say it’s a deli and the person doesn’t like the
smells and the deli because they trigger there’s meltdown then you avoid the deli
if it’s a store and the lights are too much for the century overload and they
can’t deal with the lights then you don’t go to that store and you avoid
those type of lights so these are ways of reducing it so it’s always kind of
thinking clever and that’s what we’ve learned and like I learnt from my
partner because she is a professional working in the field with autism
Asperger’s so she kind of helps me with all those things and I want to relay
this information to you guys so for me one of the the main things is that after
you have an Asperger’s meltdown you’re completely drained emotionally
physically mentally everything is just drained and you just feel like you know
you just this lethargic bauble that just sits on the floor like well I mean just
slumped you can’t move it your hands are tightly all the muscles
are tight your chest is tight it’s horrible
and one of the things is that recovering from that takes such a long time I feel
like a recovery from a meltdown can take anywhere from three days to a week which
is crazy because it completely just disfigures you for that the whole week
off about three days when you want to go on and do those things that you normally
do so one of the things that I will try and do is try and find ways of coping
now ways of coping with it I found two things at work one is eating foods that
make you feel comfortable that you know so I eat healthy most of the time and I
try my best to be as healthy as possible but I know that I have comfort foods so
having comfort foods helps really relax me and helps me kind of less tense so
this is something that I would advise if you have a certain type of food that you
really like and you have a meltdown then after the month I’ll maybe try have that
food and the second one I think this one really really is like the big one for me
and this really helps me a lot is that when I’m high so I’ve had a meltdown and
then I’m feeling like crap and in a day after all the same day I come home I’m
sitting on the sofa and I’m just really really just lethargic and I don’t know
what to do and I’ve got these like downer feelings because it also dips
your mood and your Muto’s write down one thing I like to do is I like to create
things like creating videos or making music or making websites or creating or
will create and focus on work and one of the things I like to do to create those
things is look for instructions and people in our field so say you’re
interested in motorcycles or BMX bikes then you go on the internet and you
search for how to build BMX bikes or whatever is your usual research pattern
is and then watch that information so you’re you don’t have to do anything
physically you’d have to concentrate or focus your mind but you can still get
that information for the thing that you really enjoy and I found that that works
the best out of anything is that when you watching something that or reading
something that you really enjoy that your main focus or obsession of interest
is this helps so much with overcoming and coming around from having a meltdown
we’d like to learn more about autism Asperger’s please make sure to hit that
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time guys peace

100 thoughts on “ASPERGERS Meltdowns: What YOU need to know about OVERLOAD

  1. I have Asperger's syndrome and the biggest meltdown I had was a few weeks ago and it was bad I was throwing stuff and crying while also banging my head a punching myself in the face and I'm 17 now that I think about it I am emberresed because of my meltdown.

  2. My meltdowns are brutal because I get to the point where I am extremely explosive or cry to the point where I pass out

  3. I sent this to one of my friends, I found it really informational. Being high functioning myself, I can really relate to your videos. Keep doing what you’re doing 👍🏻

  4. When my son has had meltdowns in the past he hits himself and lashes out at me and trashes things, anything I say or do tends to make him worse

  5. I haven't been diagnosed but I have family and show signs of being on the spectrum. At my job (I work fast-food because I don't know what else to do at 19) a couple days ago I had 6 people I cared about quit and I almost started crying. I'm so used to saying hello to everyone at my job. Now that everyone I said hi to is gone I start getting ready to cry and have to take a moment before going into work. It's really difficult. When my routine changes I feel like I want to yell and cry and just go home and not talk to anyone.

  6. You look very tall next to the door at 2:30. Thanks for helping me to understand myself better as learning not long ago I have pretty much (if not all) the symptoms of aspergers. My wife brought this to my attention, and said she has known this for a few years, and didn't tell me, but said it has helped her a lot in understanding me, and dealing with it.

  7. Just wow. My loved one really is navigating the world in a completely different way than I am and having this information really helps me to help them.

  8. I’m on the autism spectrum and I get meltdowns when I can’t made a decision I get frustrated and I start crying I need to cry and lay down until it passes.

  9. Interestingly enough I have aspergers, I am female and my son has been diagnosed with tourettes, adhd and autism, although he has not had his autism tested yet because Texas is a difficult state to be in with these diagnoses. We qualify for genetic testing, but we haven't heard yet if we have been accepted to be tested, because we don't know if we both have aspergers. My daughter has yet to exhibit signs (doc says doesn't mean she doesn't have it, just means it hasn't been spotted) whew!

  10. Recently I had a meltdown during my math class. I didn’t know what was happening to me because I never had this happened to me. Now I am aware of meltdowns but I never knew it can happened to me.

    I just started crying and I couldn’t stop. It happened when I got 47% on my math test when I actually supposed to score higher.

    Much higher

    But not only that, I’ve been getting pinned out by a girl on my volleyball team. She is not going to punk me out anymore because I am going to tell her to stop. Call her out and I love calling people out when needed to.

    I’m better now and my parents didn’t let me do anything because I also was overworked

  11. My boyfriend has Aspergers. He’s so kind and sweet. He has depression and anxiety. He’s learned that walking has helped him. I am still learning how to better react to it. He doesn’t like change. I haven’t reacted the best a couple of times.. it’s hard but he’s so worth it. ♥️

  12. I'm more of a shutdown guy as opposed to a meltdown guy, but when I do meltdown I go berserk. I've harmed others, I've harmed myself, and I am borderline psychotic when I have a meltdown.

  13. Does anyone else feel super emotional and depressed and/or empty. No mental energy, days before you build up for a meltdown? Does anyone also feel A LOT better after said meltdown? I just had a little one and it involved me whining and some self harm. I hit my head a few times. Not proud of ut, but it happened. I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders honestly.

  14. What if you

    Were about to have an aspergers meltdown

    But your mom said

    STOP YOUR OVERREACTING THIS IS JUST YOU WANTING ATTENTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  15. I learned to notice symptoms early. I have learned some techniques in a neurolinguistic reprogramming therapy and usually I can control, or at least not feel so intensely.

  16. I’m a fellow aspie with a question could a meltdown also involve screaming crying cursing arguing and trying to their way or is that different? And what would be the best way to deal with one at work?

  17. Is there any downside to getting a child evaluated for Aspergers/High functioning. Sons PCP wants me to take him to be evaluated. He’s extremely smart so I’m worried about future plans like college, job etc.

  18. 7 commercials in a 11 min video, And the title is not bracelet promotion but its about asperger. This fucking sucks, time wasting consumer junk

  19. You can't possibly have all those disorders , it would be impossible to diagnose all those different syndromes , you're odd ,how's that.

  20. Me and my 2 little brothers have autism
    I have autism and adhd and I have a lady who goes with me around school so if I have a meltdown then she can help stop it

    I have broke multiple limbs and bones

    I have broken my wrists 5 times broke my nose 7 times dislocated both my arms and broke all my fingers I’ve gave myself a blackeye 4 times.

    I always hit my head and with my hands or of objects

  21. When I have meltdowns they can last hours…. Any tips? When I was little one of them lasted 4 hours.. no joke I was screaming and crying my dad had to physically restrain me and wrap me in a blanket. Wtf. Do . I .do

  22. Its good to find out what works best for a loved one having a meltdown, before the occasion arises. The very first thing I need is to be safely restrained, either in a bear-hug, or just have my hands immobilized so I can't hit myself. Lots of talking and reasoning will just pile more stimuli and demands on my overloaded mind. For me: calm and reassure first; discuss afterwards!

  23. What do you do when some other person with mental issues not only tries to interrupt you on tasks, but does not quit doing that, thinks that they are always right, and calls your claims as lies and bullshit? I am trying to not make mistakes, but from an article that I read online, my brain tends to shut down what I am trying to do a task and they interrupt myself my task, and I try to not be stimming and cause assault on to people, and the person had the damn gall to tell me to not be angry. If anything, them saying that to myself is ironically bullshit. They fucking know that I am busy doing something, that they are not seeing, and/or acknowledging, that I am currently on a task, and their douchebaggery is really pissing me off to no end. How do I deal with someone that is doing that in my life? Hitting a wall or myself is not how I vent, but hitting a person that does that shit to myself, you know, that is stressing myself out, or, worse, committing homicide, despite them feeling like an ice cream headache that will not go away inside of my head, is, unfortunately, not a viable answer, namely because it is illegal, and that I am not a good fighter. Also, could it be possible that some people are also triggers for autistic people? Please let me know your answer on this sort of thing, Aspie. Thank you.

  24. I don't have difficulty sleeping but getting a good quality of sleep is hard sometimes I just wish I could sleep all the time

  25. When I get overwhelmed with my kids I will hit myself in the head so that I don't hurt them just to release the energy sometimes I literally try to pull my hair out

  26. I feel my boyfriend has non-diagnosed aspbergers. After dealing with his meltdowns and verbal abuse/yelling/swearing for 6 years I researched this and found out there have been 18 studies and aspies are Vitamin B6 deficient. I got him B6 with magnesium from Amazon and he hasn't had a meltdown since. He gets mildly frustrated but minimal swearing. I highly recommend this if anyone is tired of meltdowns every day. We live in Las Vegas and he went to the SEMA auto show with 190,000 attendees last week and wasn't overwhelmed or irritated once

  27. I know 4 friends with autism. And myself… When i have a meltdown,i cry,yell and shut myself down. I rarely have meltdowns but it's painful. Usually from loud noises,scratchy clothes and light… Well,bye! 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

  28. My sons melt downs are often violent, usually towards myself or my husband. I'm worried if we don't get him the support we need he's going to get much bigger and really end up hurting us or his sister. My question is, do you think something like emotion flash cards could help him? He's 6 and he often struggles to express how he feels or why he's behaving a certain way.

  29. My mum has always told me and told other people that I have aspergers. I have never been diagnosed, and I have never seen a professional about this, but she is still adamant that I am – she even told social workers that I suffer from aspergers. I have never believed that I have it, especially as I have never seen someone about it. However, when I came across these videos I found I relate to them so much, especially this one about meltdowns. I am 22, is it too late to see a professional and how eay/difficult is the diagnosing process? ( I hate doctors, often I will just leave without even seeing the doctors because I feel so uncomfortable, or I will get very upset and cry even if the problem isn't upsetting)

  30. My bf is diagnosed Asperger's and he has very specific triggers. Mostly sound related, some lights, or like you say plans not working out. His melt downs go one of two ways. His rage button gets pushed and he'll punch/ break things (which he works VERY hard to control and has gotten better with it in the last 3 years) When this happens I know I need to leave him completely alone and he comes to me when his brain turns back on as he says.

    Or he just falls apart hyperventilating full on panic attack, hitting himself. When this happens I know I need to hug and reassure him as much as possible. Or he just gets worse and it'll turn into a combination with the first.
    We work really well together to avoid these from happening but they do. It's just part of our world. We never let it ruin the day or put strain on us as a team though. Afterwards we usually just continue on with whatever we had planned, if possible. Lol be strong y'all! It's totally worth it!!

  31. I'm used to having a different routine..just I have a meltdown when I'm overwhelmed by thoughts or when someone accuses me of something I never did..and i think their talking about me..and they do talk behind my back..and push me until I break down uncontrollably crying for eight minutes until my mother calms me down..

  32. I’m crying because this video finally gave me clarity as to why I have intense moments where I hit myself, pull my hair, or punch things when I just feel overloaded.

  33. I'm pretty sure I have something related to Autism or… Autism
    I flap my arms whilst jumping when I'm excited or thinking intensely about something. Eg. After a movie, or after videogames, even when I've come home from school.(I'm 14) I'm able to restrain from doing it a school, incase people think I'm weird. I also have this weird germophobia thing. I hate other people touching my food, or people breathing near my mouth, I also hate loud sounds like Music conserts or loud banging. I also get these weird twitches that I can't help, like shrugging my shoulder, cracking my wrists and feet, twisting my body to one side, straighting legs and arms etc. I absolutely hate looking people in the eyes, it feels very awkward and as if they're judging me, my mind goes blank. I know this one may sound weird but I chew my fingers, not my fingernails, but my literal fingers, I find it very soothing. When I was younger I had this rubber collection, if anyone even moved a rubber a centimetre I would freak out and have a tantrum.
    Can anyone help me with this?

  34. You may have anxiety but you also cause others to have anxiety. Just a minute or so and enough. Practice not being obnoxious. Giving yourself a label doesn't excuse this sort of behavior. You are capable of using self control. Sit on your hands if you have to. Not many people are buying your BS.

  35. I live in Wisconsin and after driving a big school bus with 40-50 kids twice a day for 17 years, 3 years ago I started driving a special needs bus to and from school. Our bus carries 5 guys on the autism spectrum ranging from high functioning to non-verbal and incontinent. Each of them are so different and I love this route so much better than the big bus. I have an aide to monitor things on the bus which takes a lot of stress off so I can drive.

  36. In the U. S. I was diagnosed with ASD about four years ago. The doctor said the DSM 5 manual no longer uses the Aspergers category. Instead I was provided a below Level One, a "mild" form of autism diagnosis.

    Listening to your descriptions of your ASD, which I VERY much appreciate, I recognized our meltdown similarities. Breaking hands, panic attacks, changing of plans triggers, post meltdown emotional and physical exhaustion, sleep difficulties. Wow!!! Hearing about your symptoms reminded me of mine but in a different way for a change. Before this video, I never knew that anybody else had those similar reactions that I did. I think worse than realizing; 'oh no, I have just broken my hand again,' are the people who are scolding, shaming and yelling at me before, during and after, I can't handle that part. Giving me loud, shameful instructions on how to properly act around others while my world disintegrates before my eyes. My hands heal, but those injuries to my psyche have lasted a lifetime. Shame kills.

    Getting my diagnosis at age 49 sure answered a lot of questions for me. The doctors had also found severe PTSD from a shattering childhood of sex abuse as well. So I would have hundreds of thse adrenaline dumps per week due to panic attacks, where each time I thought I was having a heart attack, which would then immediately snowball into more and more panic. I also recall the strong desire to finish. If I was interrupted in some way during a sentence, or a project, or if my plan for a short term goal was blocked, I would freak out. Clothing was a bitch too. Throwing fits cuz the material felt like sandpaper and sharp glass rubbing on my skin.

    Lastly, I appreciate your videos and if my below Level One ASD caused most of my symptoms and guided my over reactions into my many meltdowns, which felt to me like my world was melting and only chaos existed in my brain, then I would hate to experience Level Two, Level One feels like soul torture to me.

  37. Just waow, i feel so hit.
    This helps me so much as i feel i got no book for my body to follow.
    I acually didn't know there was a thing with meltdowns but thats what i experience with the 3 days exhaustion thingy everytime i go outside.

  38. What about verbal aggression with verbal triggers during a depressive cycle of aspergers? Is that part of a meltdown? Can meltdowns be something that builds up and lasts for hours days minutes?

  39. Thank you for your willingness to share. Your videos have helped me understand my 16 year old Grandson, who is Aspie. He lives with me now as his mother is drug addicted and the rest of the family just thought he was a spoiled brat. He is now in a small classroom in school with teachers that have skills and training in Autism spectrum so he is starting to do much better at school but often his most vulnerable time is at lunch break. He has a few friends at school he likes to see during lunch and this is important for him yet the environment is overwhelming. Meltdowns are usually during or after this time. Any suggestions on this would be helpful. Something I could take to the school that staff would consider. Thank you.

  40. I care for a five year old boy, an aspie. His mother works a lot, so I can give him some one on one time. I’m learning a lot from your videos. Thank you. I find that this little boy is still trying to identify his emotions and manage them for socially acceptable situations when he goes to school. I’ve grown close to him even though I’m not related. We have built a trust between us and he is opening up to me. At his age, I find that when he has a meltdown it’s generally when he’s very tired, or hungry, or bored. He allows me to hug him and I gently rock him and quietly talk to him with positive affirmations. I’ve learned to see the meltdown coming and quickly divert him to another activity. Sometimes he wants quiet time alone on his iPad to play a few games I downloaded for him. Other times , directing him outside to the garden(he has a vege plot ) or. water play for giggles.
    I have noticed he can’t cope if his mum has overloaded his schedule, or he has just spent the weekend with his father. I did discover that favourite foods do calm him down, so when you mentioned that I felt a warm feeling of accomplishment. I’m doing something right. I will also implement your other suggestions as well.
    Keep up the good work, you never know just who you’re reaching and providing a window of understanding and advice, not only to Aspies, but those who care for them.

  41. I am 22 and I have these Aspergers meltdowns, I recently had one last night cause my bf is invited to his brothers wedding and is going but I wasn’t invited, he’s said only family but they said I am family and iv been with my bf for 7 years and it really hurts that he’s going without me and it’s embarrassing also everyone always calls me a child when I have my meltdowns and I just feel so alone

  42. people with asperger find it really annoying in a story to suddenly talk about links and description and commercial bullshit. the info is good but what a focked up video in overal because of all the offtopic bullshit dude

  43. Is it weird that my interest is in words? I write books, poems, raps, songs etc… I just find it amazing at how words interact with each other to form an expression. I could sit down to write something and get so engrossed hours would pass. I also notice when someone interrupts me when I write I get really annoyed. It's to a point where I sometimes feel like harming whoever's interrupted me.

  44. My friends and I are autistic. I only make autistic friends, it's easier you know. One of them is out of school now doing vocational training and the other is with me at school

  45. thank you so much! my boyfriend has aspergers & it's great to know that we can have backup plans. I love getting information from you because it's real & I love helping my boyfriend.

  46. I've been considering a diagnosis of autism and the more I watch your videos the more similarities I see similarities to things I do that I could never explain. I've been doing the alternative plan thing for a few month now without knowing why I needed it or why it worked and your videos have been so clarifying for me

  47. Aspergers meself. I occasionally get meltdowns but I've gotten good at telling when I'm reaching the end of my rope and I know to get the hell away and just be by myself in some way. Take a shower, nap, listen to music that's really loud to drown out all other sounds, aggressively read a book or just stomp away and keep stomping until I feel like my feet are about to break. I've had some in public as a kid and one of them got me arrested, then I finally got diagnosed and started doing digging as to what in the hell was going on. Life improved since then.

  48. Overload for me sometimes brings headaches. Last night I was in a crowded restaurant and had been in a place with a few hundred people for an hour and a half. I got a horrible headache, and some days at school I get headaches. Is this the same thing as a meltdown?
    I sometimes do have the type of meltdown you’re talking about, though. I get furious at myself for failing and I attempt to punch my forehead into doing something. It is very challenging to stop. Also some smells give me headaches.

  49. When I have a meltdown I’m on the verge of screaming and I start making angry noises, stomping my feet and crying a lot. Sometimes I also have panic attacks too. Afterwards I’m exhausted and don’t have the energy to do anything for a day or 2. Meltdowns and panic attacks are caused by either sensory overload, emotional overload or an event going wrong that messes up my routine.

  50. I haven't had meltdowns since childhood but that's mostly because my sensory overloads manifest as shutdowns in their place. I used to hide under the desk snarling and lashing out at anyone who got too close and meltdowns specifically were always triggered by bullying of some degree. My shutdown triggers are more broad so perhaps that's why they happen more often than meltdowns in my case. I've also noticed I have 2 distinct shutdown types. One where I can still think moderately clearly but can't speak to save my rear and another where I go mentally numb and weaken my outwardly reactions to everything.

  51. I think this discussion should also cover the companion symptom…SHUTDOWN. It's basically the autistic fight/flight/freeze response. Sometimes you want to have a meltdown, but sometimes you just shut down. I frequently had shutdowns because I had strict parents, so repressing my anxiety was less likely to get a punishment than acting out.

  52. I feel i may have this on a spectrum. I have moments of panic and anger, I have hit my head, gone catatonic, but feel like a child when I'm having an episode. I do suffer from major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder, and slight anger issue. Idk I want to get tested

  53. I got diagnosed with autism about a month ago and I now realise that I have sensory overloads all the time. Usually I can have panic attacks due to stress,stimuli and environment which mostly happen at school for me. I was wondering if you know how to deal with this during tests as it is a frequent thing that happens to me and I’m not sure about what I should do when it happens. Thanks for taking the time to read this 🙏🙂

  54. I had some "emotionional meltdowns" (at least I call them so…) they happen, when I get really angry and upset, because I had a unfair fight with someone and mostly I go straight to my room, play some really loud metal music and begin to cry and to scream and mostly I'm pulling at my hair, but I don't slam my head against a wall anymore (I did this twice, but I'm more aware about my feelings now, so I don't do it anymore…)
    I also feel drained or just empty for the rest of the day. The next day I'm always really tired, but I guess it's not too bad, because I don't really hurt myself?
    When I had some of those days, I usually draw and paint even more than I do normally… (I hope this sentence makes sense, English is not my mother tongue)
    Drawing always helped me to calm down and get into a mood where I can ignore everything around me. I hope my example could help someone who struggles to cope with stress… try drawing, painting or some other arts, they will help you focus and expressing what you feel 🙂

  55. I have a serious question and i hope someone can help me i need to know if a person with Aspergers ever has meltdown that causes them to break & destroy things like windows doors furniture ect….. please can anyone tell me if this happens????

  56. Whenever I have a meltdown I always try to hold it in because i always think people don't understand, even if my dad has Asperger's. It hurts alot and I have to go to my room most of the time to let it all out.

  57. Do you have any tips on dealing with conflict at work? You’ve mentioned in your videos that you weren’t diagnosed with Aspergers until you were 26…so how did you cope undiagnosed with conflict at work? Having a diagnosis offers others an explanation but until you have the official diagnosis it’s very hard navigating these complex situations because people don’t understand you. Sometimes I feel very isolated as a result. Do you have any tips for combating conflict from an (undiagnosed) autistic point of view? (If that makes sense).

  58. This happened a lot to me as a child. I often hurt myself and others. I remember my mom having to hold me in a bear hug just to stop my thrashing. It happens now too just not as often.

  59. Hi what you talk about describes a bother who has been in the states you describe for his entire life. His only downfall is that he does not recognize he any any of the symptoms.

  60. I do this soemtimes when things get too much, usually at home, I do the one where I hit my head and punch things. I nearly broke my knuckle once and then I started to feel really bad and as if it was a really dumb thing to do. I haven’t been diagnosed with ASD or Asperger, but I do have ADHD. Can someone tell me if it’s something to be worried about

  61. I’m not autistic but I get really upset sometimes and uncontrollably punch myself in the head-face and I don’t wanna ruin my memory so how do I not do that

  62. I broke my old phone because my mom got a new couch and she didn't tell me… And that was one of the signs that I needed to see a psychologist. However, I thought it was a panic attack, and it wasn't until watching some of these videos, but neurodivergent creators, as well as psychology channels. I get this experience a lot, and it scares me, because I already have issues with hypersensitivity causing pain, so it's not a fun thing. No one has been able to calm me down, I just have to go up to my room, crawl under my weighted blanket, and listen to music. I've always gotten scared really easily, and talking really doesn't help, unless it is explaining a plan. I like having options in plans, but when things happen very sudden, it's really hard. I need time to process it. I have a lot of friends like this, but none of us have a diagnosis. Apparently kids can get diagnosed for free, but as an adult it's such a long wait. But in the meantime, I found replacing lightbulbs with LED lights helps (no buzzing sound) and salt lamps are nice too. They do something similar to the bands you mentioned, but it changes the ions in the air. Also, when I'm really tired, I can't try new foods. Being sensitive to certain things, my mom likes to experiment with trying new things, but sometimes I have to say no, because I'm too overwhelmed.

  63. One of my friends from school is diagnosed with aspergers and adhd. I’m also in the process of getting diagnosed with aspergers.

  64. i sadly have to try my hardest to be quiet when im having a meltdown when my dad is home because my family barely ever takes the time to look into my condition and isn't very helpful so i'd end up getting yelled at if he heard me having one because im being too loud. i hate it because i just try to drown out the meltdown with aggressive silent crying

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