Giving Your Child a Time-out – Boys Town Center for Behavioral Health

Giving Your Child a Time-out – Boys Town Center for Behavioral Health


I think a good rule of thumb is, any sort
of dangerous, defiant, or disruptive behaviors, but really generally, any behavior that the
parent thinks is unacceptable, and that might tempt the parent to raise their voice, is
probably a good behavior for time-out. It’s more about the condition you’re creating
rather than the location. You want to choose a place where you’re creating a major reduction
in the child’s access to all attention and to preferred activities.
Generally, you want it to be a situation where the child has nothing going on, nothing fun,
nothing exciting, and there’s really nothing they can do about it.
Any attempts to access those resources are unsuccessful for the child.
I like to use just a corner where they don’t have access to anything but they’re in my
visual or auditory range. Often times, an adult sized chair is recommended
so you know if a child has two feet on the floor that means that they have left time-out
and you need to address that. This problem can be avoided by simply physically
guiding them to time-out rather than giving them the instruction to go.
A lot of times giving that instruction sets the stage for more defiance and noncompliance.
The physical guidance eliminates that concern. The cardinal rule during time-out for addressing
problems, addressing misbehaviors, whether it be your child leaving the time-out location,
or they’re crying or screaming, is all adult responses should be nonverbal.
From the time you take your child to time-out until you indicate that time-out is over,
you should say nothing. Exit from time-out, I would recommend, having
it be dependent on the child’s behavior rather than the passage of time.
Exiting from time-out and getting to leave time-out is usually a pretty rewarding and
preferred activity for a kid, so it has that power to strengthen the behavior that comes
before it. It’s a good idea to allow the child to leave
time-out once they’re exhibiting more calm and composed behaviors, so that they’re
learning how to self-calm and self-soothe. I would say that you could start doing this
as early as, probably around 12 months of age. I have a 20-month old and she knows how
to do time-out, and we do time-outs regularly. I think you can do a modified version of time-out
at a pretty young age for a child. Once they start moving around, time-out is an appropriate
disciplinary strategy.

1 thought on “Giving Your Child a Time-out – Boys Town Center for Behavioral Health

  1. I am starting time out with my 14 month old she either thinks it's a game or goes crazy and will not stay in the corner or chair. And u do a video or something for introducing the time out for this age

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