How to correct children’s bad behavior | Fixing behavior problems with Correcting Behavior

How to correct children’s bad behavior | Fixing behavior problems with Correcting Behavior


Hi my name is Josh. I’m a father of 4 children. I love being a dad. Part of being a good parent is correcting your child when they do something wrong. With Smarter Parenting’s help, I learned to do that in a positive way that keeps me calm. The skill of Correcting Behaviors does that for me. I love this skill. It helps me know what to say, what to do and how to respond when they misbehave. With a little practice, you’ll be amazing. The steps to Correcting Behaviors are: 1. Get the child’s attention to stop the problem behavior. 2. Express empathy. Use statements such as “I can see you’re upset” or “I realize this is difficult for you.” 3. Describe the bad behavior. Be sure to be descriptive and avoid judgment. Avoid asking questions because it may bait an argument. 4. Deliver a consequence. The consequence should be doable and is meant to teach, not punish your child. There is specific language you should use as well. See the Effective Consequences skill on the Smarter Parenting website. 5. Describe what you want your child to do instead. Use words your child will understand. 6. Give a reason why this good behavior is important to your child. and # 7. Practice the good behavior and then reduce the concequence. If they practice the good behavior and get it right, be sure to remember to decrease the consequence. As a reminder, this skill works best if you remain calm and don’t forget to follow through. Let’s see a few examples from real families using this skill. Pay attention to how they use each of the steps. Hey! Aubry? Hey, I know how frustrating it is when Mim interrupts your game but you just pushed her over

4 thoughts on “How to correct children’s bad behavior | Fixing behavior problems with Correcting Behavior

  1. If he really just needed a second to save in a no-pause game, its not usually too urgent to wait a moment. They just worked towards a goal that whole time and don't want to lose that progress. If they need a minute to save, give a timeframe, say "okay you have 4 minutes to save and meet me in the kitchen." Take a few seconds to treat them like a person and find a solution where you both win. If theyre still not cooperating, then you move on to the next step.

  2. Nice video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you tried – Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (should be on google have a look)? It is a smashing one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my cooworker after many years got excellent results with it.

  3. I appreciate the concept of reasoning with tour child and not just acting out of anger, but that boy’s rudeness to his mom was ridiculous to me. He was so rude to her and she just took it. I want to know when exactly the boy realized he can even dare catch an attitude with his parents and get away with it. Parents and their kids are not friends.

  4. One thing I always point out to parents when I share this video is the teenager example. I think all kids need transition time and it's unfair to expect anyone, even a child, to do things immediately on command. I think what could be added to that example is the parent giving the children a time limit to complete his activity and help.
    Otherwise GREAT video.

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