Our Human Nature

Our Human Nature


I was born with a condition that caused my
vision to get progressively worse. When I was six years old,
I began to go to a school for the blind so that I could learn Braille and touch typing
and mainstream back to the public school system. Even as a little girl, I noticed that most
of the adult women at the school who were visually impaired were unmarried
and didn’t have children. Despite this lack of role models,
I always planned to have a family. As I grew up I was just as good at making
friends and meeting guys as anybody else. That doesn’t mean it was easy, it just meant
that making friends is hard for everybody, not just for people with disabilities. I remember talking to one of my non-disabled
friends and she was telling me about how she was flirting with a guy and smiling, but he
was totally uninterested and so she felt bad. Everybody feels disappointed that way sometimes,
but we need to make sure that we don’t dwell on the negative moments.
When you are going to meet somebody, you wonder, “will I be accepted or not?” In my case,
I might worry about whether a guy will ignore me because I am blind, but really everybody
has something to worry about, be it your disability, your skin color, whether you
have enough money, your hair style, or whatever. Being nervous in this type of situation
is just part of human nature. When I was 18, I remember my brother being
worried about something else. He asked me, “Do you want to have kids? I don’t know if I do,
because what if they have our condition and go blind. Would you want them to go
through what we went through?” I answered his question with a question of
my own, “What did we go through?” He didn’t answer me, but I can tell
you that my childhood was pretty good. It had the normal ups and downs, but I had a loving
and supportive family and I did well in school. Eventually, I went to college and
later I met my husband. Today, I feel blessed to have
four wonderful children. My brother changed his mind too –
he is married and has two children of his own. I’ve realized that everybody has struggles,
whether or not they have a disability. Sure, a disability can make things a
little more complicated sometimes, but the truth is that life is
complicated for everybody and we all just have to figure out our
own ways to make our lives fulfilling.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *