We will discuss how to become an effective counselor. Let’s find out first. Actually, what is counseling? Peace be upon you, and Allah mercy and blessings., Welcome to my channel Syahdian Sofwan On this channel, we will discuss a lot about fingerprints and their relation to the basic human character traits. On this occasion, I will explain about counseling and counselor Whether we realize it or not, everyone has never been indirectly acting as a counselor for his brother/sister, for his friend, for his wife, for her husband, for her coworkers, for everyone around them. Now, actually what are the characteristics, to become an effective counselor? Let’s look at the video first. Don’t forget to click the SUBSCRIBE button on the bottom right like the video, and don’t forget to share with other friends too. Ok, keep listening … Fine, before we discuss how to be an effective counselor, what exactly is counseling? Counseling is a process providing assistance through dialogue, which is carried out between, a counselor and a client who is having problems, and lead to the giving out the solution of one problem from the disputed client. ok sure counseling and psychotherapy is slightly different. Considering that counseling is more involved to clients who are experiencing problems that are not psychopathology, or a problem that is not too severe. And this is also not psychotherapy, Where, it is a series of methods used to overcome psychiatric disorder. I once spoke at the beginning of this video, if we all, ever be a counselor to others. What is the form of counseling? First, we often give information, support that person based on the support needed by this person, based on the experience as well. Then we give feedback and ask him what will happen if you were that person. Then, give direction on how best to do it. And, provide guidance. Remember, everyone has their own timings. And we cannot force our will to other people. So, we have to give direction in accordance with the the client needs. And the best counselor is who is unbiased or impartial. And also remember, that in essence, each person is able to solve their own problems. They just have to to be heard and reminded. And actually counseling has style, strategy and the technique itself. Do you want to know how? Stay tuned For counselors, there are two the phenomenon that must be observed and watch out for counseling. First TRANSFERENCE and second, COUNTER TRANSFERENCE. Transference is a progress carried out by the client at the time of counseling that was not realized by the client. And when a counselor labels a client that he/she has no transference reaction It means, the counselor rejects the reality of psychology owned by the client. Then the second is counter transference. That is a negative feeling, the counselor has for the client. Sometimes the counselor sees a figure he/she was in the past, which is there in the client. So it will be very difficult to communicate with the client. And this is a thing which is disturbing the objective perception of the counselor. and also the maturity traits whilst handling clients. There are emotional problems that affect the dialogue process And this problem comes from the counselor’s side. So, the two problems above, transference and counter transference It comes from the two parties earlier, Transference when the problem is caused by the client who don’t accept reality. And the counter-transference is caused by the counselor who has a similar past which will affect the counseling process. And when these two things happen, we have to refer aka give that consultation problem to another counselor. For us it is case-closed with that client and ask to other counselors who are more experienced for helping the client. Okay, now we have learned how to be an effective counselor. Remember, it doesn’t have to be a fingerprint expert to become a counselor. Because truly, humans can, have two relationships, the relationship between us and our God, Hablumminallah, and also our relationship with other humans, namely Hablumminannas. And one way to develop hablumminannas is to be a good counselor. After knowing that, we can now, maximize relationships hablumminannas by being a good counselor to our best friend, our younger/older siblings, to the people closest to us. Everyone, can be a counselor. Thank you very much for listening. Don’t forget, stay SUBSCRIBED SHARE, LIKE and COMMENT also in this video. To show, your support of my channel. thanks. Wassalam.