The Narcissism of Meghan Duchess of Sussex: Triangulation 👑

The Narcissism of Meghan Duchess of Sussex: Triangulation 👑


Welcome to Narcissistic Abuse Rehab our
topic for today is The Narcissism of Megan Duchess of Sussex in this video
I’m going to talk about the claims of narcissism aimed at Megan Duchess of
Sussex, the wife of Prince Harry I’ll be speculating about what some might
considered narcissistic behavior and how this can manifest in a highly
narcissistic female full disclosure I have a lot of admiration for Megan I
think she can be a strong and courageous person I think she’s often
vilified in the press and this video isn’t about that it’s about relationship
dynamics conflict and conflict resolution in other words this video is
for educational purposes only by the end of this video you’re going to know more
about narcissism as a trait the victim rescuer dynamic triangulation
empowerment in five ways you can prevent triangulation
my name is M and was certified life coach in my concentrations are a
cognitive behavioral therapy and trauma recovery this message is personal
opinion and I’d love to hear your take so please share your thoughts in the
comment section if you find this video helpful please hit the like button and
don’t forget to subscribe to help grow our channel there’s a world of
difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder
narcissism is a trait all human beings possessed to a greater or lesser degree
it operates on a spectrum on one side we have Echoism which is the absence of or
low narcissism in the middle we have Healthy Narcissism which is a positive
self-concept on the other side of the spectrum we have NPD or self
idealization Dr. Craig Malkin describes it as an addiction to feeling special
this message is about narcissism as a trait
and when I used the word narcissist and talking about the trait NOT the disorder
so now that we’ve got that straight let’s get into our topic based on news
reports what we’re seeing right now is Prince Harry fighting battles on all
fronts he’s fighting the British press he’s fighting his brother and former
best friend Prince William he’s fighting his father Charles the Prince of Wales
and he’s criticizing his 93 year old grandmother Queen Elizabeth II
this may come as a shock to people who follow the royal family because in the
past these relationships seemed stable but this kind of situation is very
common when a person falls in love with an individual who’s highly narcissistic so what’s going on with Prince Harry and how might it be related to
narcissism I think what we’re seeing is Karpman’s Drama Triangle if you’re a
survivor of narcissistic abuse this will be very familiar to you even if you
haven’t heard this term before in Karpman’s Drama Triangle there are three
central roles The Victim who feels oppressed helpless and unable to solve
problems The Rescuer who is an enabler motivated by guilt and a desire to
escape their own issues by focusing on someone else’s and finally we have The
Persecutor who’s an accuser of bully or an authority figure they are blaming
critical angry controlling and superior sometimes a highly narcissistic
individual may deliberately create Karpman’s Drama Triangle on purpose
they do this to take control and obtain power the targeted individual feels
flattered and powerful when a narcissistic person casts them in the
role of rescuer and within this dynamic a highly narcissistic person can easily
groom them and manipulate them into compliance
unlike pathological narcissism a highly narcissistic person doesn’t necessarily
do this out of malice it’s usually done out of fear and insecurity it’s their
survival mechanism kicking in with said the further down the narcissistic
spectrum they are the more intentional the drama triangles will be to the
extent that some highly narcissistic people invent conflicts on purpose we’ll
see them blow something out of proportion in order to stir up
contention between their partner and someone in the partners support system
that the narcissistic person views as a threat this is usually a family member
or a friend that questions or criticizes the highly narcissistic persons
narrative in the Sussexes is relationship dynamic we may be seeing Megan as The
Victim Harry as The Rescuer and various people being rotated in and out of the
role of Persecutor sometimes it’s Prince William other times it’s Kate sometimes
it’s the press other times it’s the entire royal family the more
narcissistic someone is the more likely they are to play the role of victim and
intentionally seek out a persecutor and also a rescuer to save them in their
fear and insecurity they weaponize the trust and empathy of The Rescuer in
order to isolate them and take control manifestations of Karpman’s Drama Triangle are called triangulation triangulation is a manipulation tactic
used to play one person against another the aim is to engineer a rivalry between
two people and destroy any influence the person accused of being the persecutor
has over the rescuer this tactic is more commonly known as divide and conquer a
highly narcissistic person doesn’t experience the world as a safe place in
the rescuer role the partner often finds themselves fighting battles on all
fronts often with the people who love them the most
eventually this where’s the partner down in leads to fatigue when the rescuer is
exhausted their judgment is impaired and it’s then that the narcissistic person makes a power play motivated by their fear insecurity and
need for control the more narcissistic they are the less peace there will be
because narcissists are by nature disruptive in high conflict they thrive
in chaos the more narcissistic someone is the more they’ll be about power to a
narcissist when they interact with people they are either gaining power or
losing it they want to dominate in control every situation they’re in
the most effective way they can control their partner by isolation they may use
pity plays and victimhood to manipulate their partner and triangulate them with
the people who have their back and that may be what’s going on with Megan and
Prince Harry because it seems that in just two short years Harry has been
systematically cut off from his entire support system according to news reports
anyone who criticizes Megan immediately becomes the designated persecutor they
are smeared discarded and frozen out one of the reasons we find ourselves in
toxic relationships is repetition compulsion somewhere along the way
dysfunction was normalized and we don’t realize that these behaviors aren’t
healthy even though the dysfunctional power dynamic is wrecking every
relationship in our support group it’s important to remember that high levels
of narcissism can manifest as a defense mechanism because narcissistic people
see the world as a hostile place they’re often in a state of fight flight freeze
or fawn so in the case of Megan and Harry if she feels threatened by the
influence of someone in Harry’s support system her instinct would be to isolate
him if Megan is a narcissistic once she’d successfully isolated her husband from
his closest friends she would have expanded her triangulation efforts and
widened the net to isolate him from members of his family the more
narcissistic someone is the more they tend to be fearful even paranoid so
total control who has access to her husband would put
her in securities at ease this may be what we saw when the Sussex is fell out
with the Cambridge’s according to reports Prince William had expressed
concern that Harry’s relationship with Megan was moving too fast now if Megan
is a narcissist she would have seen this as a direct threat and in an act of
self-preservation she would have used it as an opportunity to triangulate Harry
and his brother the thing about having a narcissistic partner is that it can
bring out the worst in us especially when we find ourselves in The Rescuer
role taking shots at people who love us in order to prove our allegiance to the
highly narcissistic object of our affections that might have been what was
going on when we saw Harry further criticizing his brother for failing to
welcome Megan warmly enough this kind of criticism is a red flag because highly
narcissistic people often complain that they don’t get the respect they deserve
a highly nice assisting partner is deeply insecure and will demand constant
reassurance and proof of our love for them the more insecure they are the more
likely they are to ask you to deliver the head of a member of your support
system on a platter so the Sussex is left kensington palace
in the royal foundation and effectively ended their working relationship with
the Cambridge’s if megan is highly narcissistic she would have gotten a
massive boost of narcissistic supply from the Power Trip of manipulating her
husband into discarding his brother the future King the move from London to
Windsor may be significant because Harry and Megan would be more isolated and
more susceptible to an “us against the world” mindset and that may be the cause
of some of the toxicity that appears to have contaminated their relationship
with nearly every member of Harry’s family of origin I think we had a
glimpse of their “us against the world” mentality in the documentary ‘Harry and
Megan: An African Journey’ Harry publicly confirmed the rift with his brother and
both Harry and Megan were of one mind in that they feel attacked and unsafe
though the couple went to South Africa to represent the royal family they all
criticise them for their attitude toward them personally Harry was obviously in
protective mode and Megan was clear that she feels victimized and that not a lot
of people have asked how she is a narcissistic person manipulates people
by appealing to their emotional thinking often they manipulate by parentifying
their partners and making them feel sorry for them in many instances the
people they target feel they have to defend the narcissistic person and take
care of them even though the narcissistic person is an adult and often
the one controlling the situation I think we saw this consistently
throughout the documentary Prince Harry seemed anxious and fearful and expressed a need
to protect Megan and baby Archie Harry also drew a line in the sand when
he said “I will always protect my family and now I have a family to
protect” it seems that Prince Harry was publicly
throwing the royal family under the bus suggesting that Megan and Archie are his
only family now it seems the Sussexes main complaint against the royal family
is that no one at court knows how to harness and use them as a power couple
in their view the Sussex is know best and everyone else should follow their
lead and once again we’re back to that red flag of narcissism that other people
don’t show them the appreciation or respect they deserve this red flag
complaint may be rooted in a narcissistic sense of entitlement highly narcissistic people believe that they know better and in fact are better than other
people they are in constant need of having their superiority affirmed their
entitlement and grandiosity isn’t always bombastic if you’re dealing with a
covert or vulnerable narcissist which is the trickiest kind it will come across
as sincere anguish and what you might hear is “I don’t understand why no one
likes me” or “nobody cares about me” or “nobody gives me the respect I deserve”
there are often tears and reminders about how hard they try how nice they are
and all the admirable things they do for other people these things deserve
respect and adulation the tears will be sincere because many
highly narcissistic people have a god complex and are genuinely dismayed when
people fail to recognize how great they are they want to be adored admired and
worshiped covert narcissists are extremely sophisticated in their
deceptions they come across as genuinely nice sensitive caring and compassionate
so let’s go back to our main point we’re seeing Prince Harry fighting battles on
all fronts will Prince Harry who is sworn to protect Queen and country abandon his
monarch and his duty to reassure the woman he loves?
maybe. if Megan is highly narcissistic such an act would be the ultimate
affirmation of her husband’s love for her and the absolute power she wields
over him I want to end this message on a positive note because I do believe that
Megan is an inspiring figure in many ways I chose this topic because when
someone doesn’t have narcissistic personality disorder and is highly
narcissistic behavior modification IS possible with a lot of hard work and
radical acceptance Karpman’s Drama Triangle can be transformed into The
Empowerment Dynamic for this to happen both people in the couple must release
the notion that they are Victim and Rescuer in The Empowerment Dynamic The Victim becomes The Creator someone with choices options independence and
personal power The Rescuer takes on the role of Coach meaning that they offer
The Creator motivation and support but they let The Creator solve their own
problems and The Persecutor is regarded as a Challenger who plays a constructive
role in enhancing the creator’s problem-solving skills so that is my
hope for Megan and Harry that we see them move from drama triangles to
empowerment dynamics so here are my top five tips for avoiding narcissistic
triangulation in your life number one slow down one of the red flags of a
manipulator is that they’re always trying to rush things to lock you down
before you find out that they can’t handle being told no before you find out
that they can’t receive feedback without becoming
vindictive and aggressive that they haven’t learned to work through problems
in a rational and mature way and before you can assess their true motives number
two learn to recognize drama triangles hopefully you’ll now be able to identify
drama triangles and recognize when a manipulator is trying to wrangle you
into one number three don’t accept put downs against your support system this
is a big one many people step out of their integrity
in the heat of the love bombing and idealization phase and they allow their
partner to criticize members of their support system when your partner
unfairly criticizes someone who has your back shut it down number four don’t
abandon your support system once again this comes back to your integrity often
a manipulator will give you a choice and they’ll wrap it up in a flood of tears
and complaints with subtle threats of abandoning you someone who loves you
doesn’t threaten you and finally number five avoid total situations often a
manipulator will cut you off from your support system so that they can push you
to relocate to their territory where you don’t know anyone except the people the
manipulator approves of this is a total situation in which the manipulator can
control all aspects of your life and influences now it’s your turn
do you think Prince Harry is yielding to the influence of a manipulative partner
let me know in the comment section below I also would love to hear your opinions
on narcissism as a trait and Narcissistic Personality Disorder and
please if you’ve experienced triangulation isolation and other
manipulation tactics please share your experiences because you never know you
might help guys that’s all I have for you today if you found this video
helpful please hit the like button and make sure you subscribe to help grow our
channel that’s it for now be good to yourself and we’ll talk again soon

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